The following post is Christian related. This post was written for Christians and interested visitors.
I own a book called "The Purpose Driven Life" written by Rick Warren. It is a great book for a daily life thoughts, not only religious, but also personal experiences related. As I read I came across with this awesome chapter that I wanted to share with you all. It goes like this...
We must remember that it was God who chose to give us different
personalities, backgrounds, races and preferences, so we should value
and enjoy those differences, not merely them. [Think of it as you and I.
You like ice cream and I like chocolate. When we mix our differences we
make Chocolate chip ice cream!]
We must remain focused on what matters the most --learning to love each other as Christ has loved us, and fulfilling God's five purposes for each of us and his church.
[When we lose that focus and attend to disputable matters, conflict arises and conflict creates division within a fellowship.] Paul pleaded for this:
"Let there be real harmony so there won't be divisions in the church. I plead with you to be of one mind, united in thought and purpose."
People become disillusioned with the church for many understandable
reasons. The list could be quite long: conflict, hurt, hypocrisy, neglect, legalism and many other sins.
"Longing for ideal while criticizing the real is the evidence of immaturity."
Rather than being shocked and surprised, we must remember that the church is made up of real sinners, including ourselves. Because we are sinners, we hurt each other, sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally.
Divorcing your church at the first sign of disappointment or disillusionment is a mark of immaturity. God has things he wants to teach you, and others, too. Besides, there is no perfect church to escape to. Every church has its own set of weakness and problems. You'll soon be disappointed again.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the German pastor who was martyred for resisting Nazis, wrote a classic book on fellowship, Life Together. In it he suggests that disillusionment with our local church is a good thing because it destroys our false expectations of perfection. He said, "He who loves his dream of community more than the Christian community itself becomes a destroyer of the latter."
Choose to encourage rather than criticize and avoid gossip. Focus on what we have on common, not our differences.
This book is sold on Barnes and Nobles at a reasonable price and I encourage you to get it because it helps you meditate about life in a very broad perspective.